About Me: The Journey to Becoming Unfuckable

Once upon a time, I had a job that made me question the meaning of life—because if that was life, I wanted a refund. I was fired from that soul-sucking job, and while I thought it was the end of the world, it turned out to be the start of something far more extraordinary. Armed with an unemployment check and determination, I applied for job after job, but nothing happened. Fate, however, had other plans.

One day, my son mentioned these strange new tools called MidJourney and ChatGPT. Curious and desperate, I dove in headfirst, figuring I might as well learn something while waiting for the universe to cut me a break. As someone bursting with creativity, I quickly realized digital art was my calling. I began creating like never before, bringing creations to life from every corner of my mind. Then one day, I entered a wildly creative prompt into MidJourney, and out popped an image so stunning it took my breath away.

I showed it to a good friend who happened to know the Mayor of Pittsburgh. Through a series of coincidences that still astonishes me, that very artwork ended up hanging in the Mayor’s office for Black History Month. And if that wasn’t wild enough, it later appeared in the Paramount+ series Mayor of Kingstown. Suddenly, my art was everywhere—Italy, Dubai, Switzerland, Germany, New York—each place elevating my work to new heights.

This whirlwind journey from poverty to posh got me thinking. While I was learning the ropes of AI and digital art, I was also undergoing a mindset shift. I wasn’t just surviving; I was thriving, and it was all because I became…unfuckable. The self-help books I had read left me cold, full of clichés and recycled advice. So, I looked inward, revisiting the time when I was unstoppable, driven, and on fire.

I revisited my deep appreciation for Japanese culture, especially their philosophies mixed with the law of correspondence. Combined with my fascination for Wabi-Sabi, this formed the foundation of a new mindset—a mindset I needed to document and share.

One night, surrounded by notes and sketches, it hit me: this mindset was the essence of being unfuckable. Yes, the word might make some people cringe, but think about it. It’s raw, real, and perfectly captures the silent, unstoppable power that defines being untouchable. Just like a diamond starts as coal, or a butterfly emerges from a caterpillar, it’s about evolution and transformation.

But I knew this was going to be a hard sell. The word “Unfuckable” isn’t exactly PG, so I introduced a martini glass symbol to add a touch of class. Yet, despite the hurdles, I was determined to share this mindset with the world because I know there are others like me—people ready to reclaim their power and become unstoppable.

This book is the culmination of everything I’ve learned, lived, and absorbed over the years. It’s not just a self-help guide; it’s a story—a story about becoming more than what society expects of you, more than what you ever thought possible. It’s about moving in silence, transforming everything about yourself—from your fashion to your mindset—until you become the very definition of unfuckable.

And here’s the kicker: I’ve lived this journey. I’ve gone from poverty to posh, from unnoticed to unstoppable. I’ve done it all while maintaining my integrity, moving quietly, and making the world notice without ever shouting for attention. And if I can do it, so can you.

So here’s to you—the future unfuckable you. Let’s get this journey started.

But wait let me give you the Why?…

Why ‘UnFuckable’? The Word That Speaks to Being Untouchable.

Why did I choose the word “UnF🍸ckable”? After some deep research and soul-searching, it became clear that there’s no word in the English language that packs the same punch. “UnF🍸ckable” is expressively powerful in a way that few words can claim to be. It’s raw, unapologetic, and, above all, embodies a strength that resonates on a primal level.

The word “fuck” itself has a history as rich as it is complex, spanning centuries and crossing languages. Its roots trace back to Germanic origins, and over time, it has evolved into one of the most potent expletives in modern speech. What began as a neutral term gradually became taboo, but in 1971, “fuck” was cemented as a protected form of expression under the First and Fourteenth Amendments in the United States—a testament to its enduring power and relevance.

So, when it came to describing a mindset that’s untouchable, unbreakable, and unstoppable, “UnF🍸ckable” was the only word that could truly capture that essence. It’s not just a word; it’s a declaration. It’s a state of being that refuses to be diminished, diluted, or dismissed.

In a world that often tries to soften the edges of strong emotions, this word remains defiantly sharp, a beacon of the power we all have within us. And that’s why I chose it—because when you’re aiming to describe a mindset that is formidable and unyielding, there’s simply no other word that does the job.

Why the Martini Glass? The Story Behind the Symbol

Why the martini glass replacing the “U” in “Unfuckable”? It softens the edginess for marketing, yes, but there’s more. In 2021, I became an affiliate of OneHope Wines, a brand I admire for not only their amazing wine but their commitment to charitable causes. I can create fundraisers and donate the proceeds to nonprofits that matter to me. It’s a win-win—great wine for a great cause.

On a personal note, I used to be a whiskey drinker, but after some wild nights, I switched to something smoother—champagne and wine. I discovered that Prosecco, especially from OneHope, can create some fabulous cocktails, and throughout my book, you’ll even find a few of these recipes.

So, the martini glass isn’t just clever marketing; it’s a nod to my affiliation with OneHope and the smooth shift I made in my life—from chaotic whiskey nights to refined wine moments.