The Trifecta

By Kimberly Ann Hawes

Artwork by Hawsé Sumi

I’ve spent years exploring what it means to live authentically, to stand strong in the face of challenges, and to create a life that feels truly my own. Along the way, I’ve defined what I call the trifecta of being UnF🍸ckable: UnF🍸ckable, UnF🍸ckable Mindset, and UnF🍸ckable Lifestyle. These three pillars are the foundation of my philosophy and the blueprint for how I live every day. Let me share what each of these means to me and how they can transform your life too.

UnF🍸ckable (adj.): The Foundation of Resilience

For me, being UnF🍸ckable means owning a strength so unshakable, no external chaos or negativity can disturb my peace. It’s about standing solid, like a diamond, with a quiet power that commands respect without a word. At the same time, it’s about flowing gracefully through life’s ups and downs, like a butterfly in motion.

This isn’t about perfection. It’s about embracing my imperfections and turning them into strengths, learning to thrive where others might stumble. Being UnF🍸ckable is about mastering myself, becoming untouchable, and staying true to who I am—always.

UnF🍸ckable Mindset (n.): The Key to Inner Mastery

My journey toward developing an UnF🍸ckable Mindset didn’t happen overnight. It took years of self-discovery and learning to quiet the noise around me. This mindset is the unshakable core of who I am—a place of confidence, resourcefulness, and silent power.

When you have an UnF🍸ckable Mindset, nothing and no one can pull you off course. You navigate life with clarity and focus, knowing exactly who you are and what you stand for. It’s about living with purpose, turning every challenge into a stepping stone, and owning your narrative without compromise.

UnF🍸ckable Lifestyle (n.): Elegance in Every Detail

The UnF🍸ckable Lifestyle is how I translate my mindset into action. For me, it’s about creating a life that combines minimalist aesthetics—drawing from Wabi-Sabi, Japandi, and Afrocentric influences—with deep personal growth.

This lifestyle is designed for women, especially those like me, navigating big life transitions like caregiving, career changes, or reinvention. It’s about mastering the art of elegant living, creating luxury on a budget, and building wealth through meaningful side hustles.

The UnF🍸ckable Lifestyle isn’t just about looking good—it’s about feeling good, staying centered, and living with intention. Whether it’s transforming my apartment into a sanctuary, launching a business, or reinventing myself, this way of life has helped me stand out while staying true to myself.

The Intersection of It All

These three pillars—UnF🍸ckable, UnF🍸ckable Mindset, and UnF🍸ckable Lifestyle—have become my compass for living. They work together to create a powerful framework for resilience, growth, and elegance.

This isn’t just a philosophy; it’s my way of life. And I’m passionate about sharing it with you, so you can discover what being UnF🍸ckable means for you.

if this resonates with you, I invite you to dive deeper into these on my podcast. Tune into www.unfuckablepodcast.com for more inspiration, tips, and stories to help you master the art of being UnF🍸ckable.

Let’s navigate this journey together. You’ve got this!